Oh, the things I have seen that cannot be unseen. Last night I tuned
into the new Lifetime series “7 Days of Sex,” a show that follows two
couples who have lost their sexual spark (or it has at least seriously
dimmed) and pledge to have sex every day for a week in an attempt to get
it back. With a camera crew around. For a major television network.
How much do you enjoy watching obnoxious people fight? Your enjoyment depends on this.
my disclaimer. I like sex, and I like discussions of sex. I think
they’re necessary and productive. I think it’s a great idea to examine
what happens in long term relationships that often (but not always)
leads to a cessation of sexual activity.
Second, my disgust.
While this show attempts to look at these issues, it does a terrible
job. In the particular episode that I watched, it was so gendered that
it scared me. The women withhold, the men are sad. Because, as we all
know, men are constantly aroused and women are killjoys. The men claim
to “want it more,” despite studies generally debunking this myth, and
the women meet with their friends to eat carbs and talk about their
I’m not saying that I don’t meet with my friends to
talk about my feelings. I’m not saying that sometimes women don’t want
to have sex. All I’m saying is that these are potentially dangerous
stereotypes, and Lifetime ran with them to make a bad TV show. Since
this is what Lifetime is best at, I am not surprised.
But back to
the things I’ve seen that cannot be unseen. Nothing is so terrible,
aside from each couple being rather unlikable and the general ickiness I
feel when watching total strangers in dark bedrooms talk about the
intercourse they’ve just had. While I am generally one very excited to
hear intimate details, I do think there are some things best kept
between two people (or at least kept away from just anyone with a
television and cable box). Watching these people stumble through the
week while throwing out ridiculous clichés and gross euphemisms was less
What did the program do well? It had its saving
graces, like the examination of trying to maintain a sexual connection
with babies and young children everywhere. Watching the couples relearn
their own sexual powers and lose some of their inhibitions was nice. I
simply wish that they had more inhibitions about inviting me into their